Ba Ba here ... this is the picture mom mentioned in her previous post. We've seen quite a bit of this in the last few days. It doesn't take much to set her off. The severity does swing across a spectrum, which is good, since it means they are not all like this one. Sometimes just her "aaa...aaa...aaa..." sound, sometimes crying, sometimes a yell or two or three. Just as her fits swing, so does the duration of them. Some are short. Some are long. This just depends on how long before she decides to let go of it. I admit, and you'll see more on this in "Letters," the discipline as come sooner than I expected. I wanted to bond first. Make her feel loved first. Not have battles of wills first. None-the-less, we are bonding and loving, we just do the other in the midst of it all. I do believe she is learning that we are the ones in control, not her. It is evident, just as we read in our foster care updates, than when "princess" wanted something or wasn't happy ... they just fed her to make her happy. Adjusting to a new ma ma and ba ba who don't just make her happy, well that's hard. I also realize this, in between those hard times, this kid is full of love and she shares it with all of us. Her smiles, laughs, cackles, hugs, snuggles, singing, etc make my heart sing.
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WONDERFUL POST...AND PIC. WOULDN'T WE ALL LOVE TO BE FED (IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER) WHEN WE AREN'T HAPPY!? THERE ARE STILL MOMENTS WITH ONE OF OUR CHILDREN THAT WE HAVE TO REMIND THAT CHILD THAT WE, THE PARENTS, ARE IN CONTROL. DISCIPLINE IS LOVE, SO YOU ARE BONDING! GOD IS STILL GOOD AND FAITHFUL. THANKS FOR KEEPING US ALL POSTED ON YOUR FAMILY'S JOURNEY! LOVE AND MISS Y'ALL!
Praying for your family. This must be such a difficult transition for everyone. Thanks for sharing the truth. It helps me prepare to adopt our soon to be 4 year old.
Blessings,
~Rebecca
Hey Brown Family! This is Vicki. We miss you all and keep you in our prayers daily. I've enjoyed all the blogs you've posted and my heart goes out for little Emmy and you all. Tammy, your "ramblings" blog was so heartfelt and honest. Thanks for sharing.
I hope you don't mind me asking but do you think that some of the ways you're feeling and some of the things you're struggling with may be to give you a limited insight for what this all must be like for little Emmy? She's going through the same as you all, only she doesn't have anyone to talk to about it.
Celina spent the night with us last night and I just keep thinking how hard it would be for her if she was taken from the only home and peoplel she's ever known, put with people who didn't speak her language and had no idea how long the situation was going to go on for. We've had discipline issues and misunderstanding in the last 15 hours with her, and we speak the same language! I wonder how scared Emmy must be. I'm not saying that you shouldn't correct or discipline but rather how gracious God has been to let you experience what she is going through in part. You all have each other to talk to, turn to and encourage. What a blessing! Emmy hasn't had the time to develope the knowledge, trust or love for you all yet, so at times she might get angry, sad, and confused, but take heart, change will come. She'll begin to understand, the language, and the affections.
Soon you'll be home, Emmy will grow to trust and love you, and all this will all be a distant memory. Trust me, 9 months in Japan seems a like a dream sometimes. But we have lots of pictures to prove we were there. They remind us of how gracious and merciful God is to us, how blessed we are that He loves us and how kind of Him to give us all the things we don't deserve.
Our prayers for you all will continue and we are oh so anxious to have you all home. Can't wait to hug you all when you get here! We Love you!
Oh that Vicki is so wise!!!! Just last night I was sharing with Ryan about this post and I said, "It must be so hard to come from getting whatever you what and being FED when you aren't happy to scheduled eating, correction, and new language with the Browns, that might just make a little one angry." I quickly followed this by and it must be so hard to be the Browns!!! Stand firm, be gracious, continue to correct and be mindful of what Vicki shared...let that encourage it. God wanted this little girl for you and YOU for Emmy...so He WILL be faithfult to work all things out to His glory and y'all's good! Isn't He kind!? We too, can't wait to hug you! *Ryan was remembering back to when Benjamin Taehoon wasn't such a happy camper with his new family and surroundings...but wow, to see him off to Orlando, we didn't even remember that little guy of a year (or so) ago!! :)
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